|The "Foley's Mannequin|
Goes to Prom" dress
Well, because if you're a 20-something, educated, middle- or upper-middle-class woman, statistics show that the dating market kind of stinks for us. Thanks to a variety of factors ranging from the rise of pornography to the decline of men in higher education, we're dating less.
Besides more lonely Friday nights and Saturdays spent with girlfriends brunching (admittedly, it's not like the single life is always synonymous with the pit of hell), what does this reduction in dating frequency mean? It means it can be sorely tempting to undervalue yourself.
|Nothing's scarier than late 80s|
Like a house in a down market, sometimes you start to wonder if the custom fixtures and sharp built-ins are actually adding that much value, right? Maybe dropping the price $10k or so would mean you could actually sell? Or maybe you need to pour more money into re-landscaping and really sprucing up if you want to get the asking price. Or maybe repainting the neon green bathroom is what it's going to take to increase the "universal appeal" factor.
|Behold: the flawless|
logic of dieting women.
In fact, it's really important to not drop your asking price*—your value is not correlated to the number of dates you're getting. This means not only do you keep the asking price the same, but you don't entertain bids that aren't at least in the ballpark.
Valuing oneself without the benefit of a market can be difficult. But high net worth individuals and owners of rare antiques do this all the time. High net worth individuals pool the worth of all their assets and measure it against the sum of all their liabilities. Owners of rare antiques take into account all of the characteristics of the piece, and count its rarity as a value-adder, rather than an inconvenience because of lack of a market. Often, the desire to make sure the right person gets the piece will prevent an owner from selling to just anyone.
|I mean, don't go overboard here.|
What does this look like practically? Well, take yourself seriously. This means DON'T GET DESPERATE. You're worth something, even though you and your girlfriends have brunched your way through the entire city at this point.
Example: It's not worth it to let some guy text you "hey, what's up?" as a precurser to a date.
"hey, what's up?" is death.
It's hyper casual, it screams "I'm bored and looking for the best option for my evening," and it is BEGGING you to friendzone the sender. Do yourself a favor. Put him in the friendzone. Forever.
|Hmm. You're older.|
But still immature.
I retained my value in:
Black and cream patterned skirt, black tank, cream sweater, cream vintage-inspired necklace, black tights, black figure-eight earrings, black and silver ring, and black over-the-knee boots.
*Obviously I don't mean you should actually have a numerical value in mind that a guy has to/can spend to win your affection. This is an analogy. Please, please, please don't actually put yourself on some sort of market. That's a really terrible idea.